I Am A Success At Blogging. Here’s Why.


I know there are probably some people who will disagree with me here, but that’s OK.

Let me preface my thoughts with this: I appreciate all of the tips on “how to run a successful blog” that can be found on every corner of the internet. I read them often, and I have taken a lot of what I’ve learned to heart.

Without other bloggers and marketers, I wouldn’t know a thing about scheduling, or pinterest, or tips on organizing, or canva. Really, I wouldn’t know anything other than how to write out my thoughts and hit publish.

Another thing: Of course, I am intrigued by the idea that it would be possible to make money via blogging. I am poor. Money would make me not so poor. Making money doing something I love to do would be amazing.

However; I am here to admit that I get highly frustrated and annoyed when I read articles with titles like “Why You are Not a Blogging Success.” Or “Reasons Why No One Reads Your Blog.”

OK, so I know most of these are also filled with good tips, but I can’t help but find them discouraging.

I’m here, and I’m blogging four to five times a week. I enjoy writing and sharing and making connections.

I have spelling and grammatical errors, I don’t always have tips that will help your life, and I definitely don’t utilize all the apps and social media that could increase traffic.

What you can count on from me?

I will be real and authentic. I will have my off days, and some days I won’t even show up. I won’t strictly stick with any weekly topics or themes. Sometimes I’m sad. I do dumb things and I will share them with you. I’ll talk openly about my problems with mental illness and addiction. I’ll talk about the things that I’m struggling with. I’ll share lots of pictures of my dogs.

Most of all, I’m having fun and it feels good.

To me, that means I’m being a successful blogger.

I’ve had this blog and have been writing on and off for six years, sometimes for a fairly large audience, and other times for tens of people.

I don’t think I was ever not a success. This space has always been what it needed to be for me.

I’ve also watched a lot of bloggers come in and out of blogging in stages. I’ve seen bloggers with thousands of followers, suddenly burn out or get busy and quit updating.

I don’t think any of those people as failures. They reached people and shared their thoughts and made connections.

I have mad respect for those who have been able to turn their blog into a business, and I’ll repeat that I would love for that opportunity in the future.

Until I’m ready to make that sort of commitment, I’m going to continue being a successful blogger every time I hit publish. If I’m making one person’s life a little happier or if one person is able to relate, then I’m being a success.

I also want you to know that I like your blog just the way it is. I like reading about your workouts and your successes, your dreams and your failures.

I’d much rather read about that then marketing strategies and “how to’s” every single day. If that’s what you ENJOY doing though, then keep at it. I’ll support you in that too.

Most importantly, don’t let anyone ever tell you are not a success if you’re having fun.

Am I the only one who feels this way?


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  • http://www.bourbonlipstickandstilettos.com/ Bourbon & Lipstick

    You are so NOT alone in this. I am not a huge fan of those posts because you should be able to write what the hell you want. There’s certainly more to life.

  • http://www.thisimperfecthappiness.com Diana

    Great post Carissa! I think everyone has to define for themselves what success looks like. It’s different for every person. I totally avoid those posts now about why you aren’t more successful blogging because I think they’re just click bait. #beyou

  • http://www.dreambigandbuytheshoes.com/ Emelia @ Dream Big & Buy the S

    I am so with you! Staying true to me is so important. I am having so much fun creating things, sharing my feelings, and making connections that I don’t care if I ever make a dime on my blog…as long as I am in it for me. Great post!

  • http://www.audielou.com Audrey Louise

    This is just what I needed to read right now. Perfection. I have the bad habit of comparing myself to other blogs and blogger communities and thinking, “What am I doing wrong?” But I’m writing and reading and commenting, and that’s the important part! Thank you :)

  • http://www.militarywifeandpuglife.com MilitaryWifeandPugLife

    Yeah I don’t have time to do all the social media. The blog will just have to do on its on.

  • SuzLyfe

    Totally, 100% agree. You define your own level of success. And if you are at a place that feels right? BOOM. Don’t let anyone tell you differently.

  • http://girlytomboymusings.blogspot.com Ganeeban

    I can’t even lie, at times Pinterest will get me and I click on those “How to have a successful blog!” pins. But after I read it, I just shake my head. Too much work. I like to just write and post about my life. I love the comments, but it’s no biggie if I don’t get any. Of course I’d love to make money at this, but that’s now why (I think) the majority of us are out there blogging…but I could be wrong! I know some gawk at the structured posts, but my OCD for organization takes over. Sometimes, a post needs to be written and I skip the structure, but it’s not that often. I had no idea what blogging would do for me, but I’m grateful for it. I would never have run into a blog such as yours! Happy Blogging! xoxo, ganeeban

  • http://realtalkwithkb.typepad.com/blog/ Kathy@RealTalk

    blogging “rules” are stupid and to be honest, those who follow rules are blogs that i choose not to read because they’re all the same cookie-cutter type of content. it’s boring and unoriginal!

  • http://www.lifeaccordingtosteph.com/ SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph

    You are not alone!

    I’m not a big fan of blogging about blogging posts…while like you I’ve found some to be helpful in letting me know about things like picmonkey and how not to be a no reply blogger, etc., I really use my space to share whatever the heck I feel like sharing. Not to be pinnable and not to make money, although I make some here and there by dumb luck.

    Blogs I like to read are authentic. Like yours!

  • http://gretchruns.com Gretchen Braun

    LOVE this! I was just having a conversation with my mom that since I’ve started blogging, I just feel happier. I’ve met more people in my area that have similar interest, I’ve become friends with bloggers across the country (and even have gotten to meet some in person!) and I’ve become a healthier person. That is definitely success, even if I can’t make a career out of it and don’t get invited to amazing trips sponsored by companies. I’m fine with how I’m doing now, and I love your blog for keeping it real!

  • http://www.gracemakesnew.blogspot.com Julia Strong

    So much YES to this!! Totally agree!

  • ElleSees.blogspot.com

    thank you! i often feel like a failure!

  • http://whisperingwriter.blogspot.com/ Amber

    Amen to this. I so agree! I know I have a lot of fun with my blog. I am who I am.

  • http://sponsoredbycoffee.com/ Connie

    Love this post! Success in blogging is definitely measured in several different ways. I feel like as long as someone is doing what they love and staying true to themselves, they have reached ultimate success.

    Connie | Sponsored by Coffee | Bloglovin’

  • http://www.kati-rose.com/ Kati Rose

    I feel like writing “xyz behind blogging” have become the it posts of the moment. I don’t read them most of the time. Especially if they’re negatively toned just by title. Don’t tell me how to run my blog please and thank you.

  • http://www.itscarmen.com ≈ CARMEN ≈

    Excellent points. I like your realness which is often lacking from other “successful” blogs. They often seem so prim, proper, & staged. I’ve never had a set blogging schedule because it just doesn’t fit my persona! Happy weekend! :]

    // ▲ itsCarmen.com ▲

  • http://aladygoeswest.com/ Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    You are an awesome blogger, I love connecting with you and reading your authentic voice. Well said, sister! :)

  • Kersten @fitandtasty180.com

    Now THIS was so good. For all the reasons you mentioned I am reading your blog. You are authentic and honest. I hope you keep up doing what you do and enjoying it. Enjoy your weekend!

  • http://blog.lovemanythings.net Crystal Ward

    Love this! It makes me sad that the personal blog is practically an endangered species.

  • http://www.businesslifeanddesign.com/ Jenn @ Business, Life & Design

    Agree! I think a lot of those “how to” posts really don’t take into account that there are different ways to define success. I only post 2 or 3 times a week, and lately I’ve been cranky and not even interacting very much with other bloggers, but I’d still consider it a “success” because I’m getting what I want out of it: a creative writing outlet, and a chance to speak my mind.

  • http://mwaonline.blogspot.com Mwa

    Yes! I sometimes secretly read these how-tos, especially having come back after so many years and getting only a fraction of the comments I used to. But like you say, it is the way it is and needs to be. And I can’t write anything apart from what’s going on with me.

  • http://mwaonline.blogspot.com Mwa

    And that’s why I like your blog. x

  • http://www.why-girls-are-weird.com Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird

    These posts stress me out, they make me feel like I’m not good enough. But then posts like THIS ONE make me so happy.

    You should join my Facebook group, #AuthenticBloggers. We’re kind of what you’re all about =-)

    Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird

  • Rosie

    Nope, you’re not alone at all. I will admit that sometimes I wonder if I should venture out and try to publicize my blog a little more since it gets a bit sad to post and get no replies, but then again, my blog is pretty much me just hashing out personal struggles or blogging about my life. Either way, I love your blog just the way it is.

  • http://www.thenewwifestyle.com/ chelsea @ the new wifestyle

    good stuff right here :) just needed to comment to say that we all need to define our own succes and it sounds like that’s exactly what you’re doing!