For a few years I took ambien. That proved to be a huge mistake as I also continued drinking wine during that time. I’m not proud of my irresponsibility, but I am impressed at my ability to rationalize my irresponsibility.
During that time, I was definitely getting plenty of sleep, but my hours awake were plagued with a perpetual hangover and deep fog. I also woke up a few times completely soak and wet by the pool.
Like I said, not my proudest moments. But I learned from my mistakes. At least that’s what I tell myself to make myself feel better about that foggy time in my life.
Later, I experimented with a variety of sleep aids and methods.
I tried benadryl, meletonin and every over the counter sleep aid ever invented. I tried hypnosis, acupuncture and meditations. I still couldn’t sleep.
When I decided to quit drinking, I was sure that I was never going to get a full night’s sleep again.
I immediately proved myself wrong.
For the first time in my adult life, I was able to fall asleep easily and stay asleep all night. I didn’t have the anxiety-filled thoughts that I was used to after drinking 3 glasses of wine. I even dreamed pleasant dreams and woke up feeling refreshed.
It was a miracle!
But now something weird has started happening. I wouldn’t even know about it if it weren’t for my boyfriend’s frustration, but I honestly don’t know what to do about it.
Apparently I have become a night dancer. Or a night runner. Or something.
Matt and rarely have arguments, and when we do I try my best to get it resolved before we fall asleep. But lately, my sleep has been the main form of any discontent in our relationship.
He’s used to the fact that I take all of the covers and twist them into knots. He’s even accepted the fact that between Stevie and I, he only has a quarter of our queen size bed to spread out.
Now he has to deal with my thrashing and knee bouncing and crossing and uncrossing my legs all night long.
He’s woken me up a few times and asked me to try to stop, but once I fall asleep it starts again.
I’m at a loss at what to do about it. No matter of planning my positions or reciting mantras seems to help my new sleep habit. I’m thinking I’m going to have to resort to tying my legs together if I want to continue to sleep in the same bed as my boyfriend.
I hate to be the reason he doesn’t get a good night of sleep.
Do you have any advice? Do you have any weird sleep habits? What do you do to control them?