My Rocky Relationship With My Blog (Can We Be Friends?)

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I have to say, it feels really good to be writing regularly again. I really appreciate those of you who visit this site and leave feedback, and also those of you who just read! It makes my heart swell.

I was looking back at some old posts, and I was hit with the realization that I have been writing here for nearly 6 years now.

Six years.

With the exception of some of my closest friends and of course my family, I haven’t had much in my life for six whole years.

Just as I have, this site has gone through many changes.

When I first started, it was mostly a place where I put up movie reviews and silly little thoughts.

After a while, I became part of a community. I was really active on 20SB and participated in link ups and guest blogs. I met some amazing people. Some that I’m still friends with today.

During that time, I updated my blog with embarrassing stories and silly anecdotes. Some of it is a little embarrassing. But it was fun, and it was who I was at the time.

At some point, I stopped updating so regularly. Most of the blogs I followed did too. I still follow most of the people on social media and many of them have gone on to write books, write for bigger websites and get jobs in social media.

When I applied for my radio job,  I asked my readers to write up recommendations for me. I sent in 150 hilarious and touching recommendation letters, which I’m sure helped land me this position.

For a while, real life took over. Months would go by, without even a thought of my site. I got busy with relationships, new jobs and other hobbies, and writing stopped being such a priority.

Still, I always came back when I needed to vent or unload about something.

In a way, my relationship with this site has been much like my relationships with my oldest friends.

It has seen me through failed relationships. Career changes. A 140 lb weight loss. My decision to quit drinking for good. My struggle with an eating disorder.

When I needed it, it was always there for support and a shoulder to cry on.

Even when I wasn’t updating regularly, I always felt a little bit of guilt in the back of mind, much like the nagging feeling you get when you know you need to call a friend.

Lately, I’ve been leaning on this relationship a little more.

I am now remembering how good it felt to be a part of a community. How much of a difference it can make when you have like-minded people to offer and receive support, and a place where you I can share the things that are on my mind.

The problem is, I’ve never been very good at commitment.

I’m nervous that I will get overwhelmed and walk away again.

So I’ve decided to take it slow.

I’m going to continue to come here and share, and I’m hoping to continue making connections. I’m giddy about the new ones I’ve made already.

I’d really like us to get to know each other better. But I know I’ve got a lot to learn.

I guess what I’m saying is, do you think we could be friends? I’d really like to see where this goes.



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    do what works for you! that’s the best part of blogging. i love that you call it a space to unload. it’s so true!

  • asplenia

    Ha, I’ve been the same way except I seem to just start new blogs. lol. The nice thing about a feed reader is that you can write whenever you feel like and if you take a hiatus and come back, we’ll see you then!

  • Gretchen Braun

    This was such a sweet post! I hope that we can be blog buddies :) I appreciate you commenting on my blog and visiting! I love reading your posts and leaving comments :) Hope you’re having a great week!

  • Earl-Leigh

    Welcome back! I take unplanned blogging breaks because it IS a huge commitment and sometimes I just need space.

  • Allison Renner

    I think I found you through 20SB years ago… I think I was somewhat active on there in 2009? I didn’t know you got letters of recommendation from your readers – that is SO awesome!!! I wish I could hear your morning show.

  • Ganeeban

    Wow, that’s a long time to be blogging (in my little humble opinion). I feel like blogging emulates the ebbs and flows of life – your into it for awhile, then you fall off. Repeat cycle. As long as it’s cathartic and enjoyable, I hope you keep doing it. If it feels like a chore, then take a break. I guess there’s my unsolicited advice, you’re welcome 😉 HAHA Loved the post and I’m a new reader and I’m enjoyed my reads. I’m about to go read your 140 weight loss link, I’m intrugied! xoxo, ganeeban

  • Mwa

    That thing with the 150 recommendations is so sweet!
    I know what you mean about blogging – it is how I feel too.

  • Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    Hi Carissa! Wow, I didn’t know you had been blogging for so long. It’s so true that we go through times in our life when writing/blogging take a front seat or a back seat, and you just have to go with it. I look forward to reading more of your rants, because they are pretty darn funny. :)

  • CarissaJaded

    Thanks for reading! And very true!

  • CarissaJaded

    I do love the feed reader, which one do you use? I’ve been loving feedly!

  • CarissaJaded

    Thanks Gretchen and same to you!

  • CarissaJaded

    Yup, sometimes ya just need it. It’s fun right now and hopefully it will stay that way!

  • CarissaJaded

    Yeah! It was pretty awesome. I still have them all somewhere. I’ll have to dig them out. We have a podcast if you’re ever super bored!

  • CarissaJaded

    I’m not even sure i would call it “Blogging” for some of that time, but I’ve been here in some sense. I love it right now, and I think I’m to the point where I know how to have more balance in my life.

  • CarissaJaded

    It was really sweet! Hope you stick with it too. :)

  • CarissaJaded

    Ha, thanks Ashley! Thanks for stopping by! I’m sure I have lots of rants within me.

  • SuzLyfe

    Blogs definitely are a relationship. And one of the best investments I’ve made in myself. Also, way cheaper than therapy. But I still need my meds…sooo…..

  • Felecia Efriann

    It neat that you have been blogging for a while. I have as well, and have blogged less during different times in my life. I alway end up coming back to it because of the community. I have also seen how my blog has evolved over the years, with the changes in my life. I haven’t kept the same blog name over but it is cool that you have. :)

  • MilitaryWifeandPugLife

    Oh wow.
    You and I have a few things in common.
    I stopped drinking this year for good. Best decision I’ve made in years or ever for that matter.
    I’ve struggled with ed since I was 19, hugs to you.

  • little luxury list

    We have been blogging about the same amount of time and I feel you. I went from wedding blogger to lifestyle blogger and am happy with it.

    At the end of the day, it’s your space on the internet. Take it slow and always have fun.


    little luxury list formerly Chic ‘n Cheap Living

  • cjvan

    Celeb/pet names. Dog: Barky Bark. Roach: Mark Wallbug. (I have way too much time on my hands.)