My New Years Resolution… and TYFB!!!

Note- I think this post may make me come across like a bitch, but bare with me!

I know everyone is all in the Thanksgiving mood and getting ready to get in the Christmas spirit, but since Hobby Lobby has had their Christmas decorations up for four months now, I figure I’d better go ahead and get a head start on New Years.

2 years ago my New Years Resolution was to be less  of a flake (which was mostly a success) and last year I decided to be more committed to appreciating the culture of my city, (at which I miserably failed.) This year I have been wanting to have another go at inner-self improvement, but I had been having a difficult time figuring out what I would like to improve, until recently.

Actually, there have been a few things that have made me realize that there is something about myself that I want to change. I feel like all the signs are pointing to it, and maybe January 1st is the time to do so (or maybe I’ve already started.) Either way, I should really do something about it for the better.

I think I need to be a little less snobby.

Wait, wait! Don’t get the wrong idea… It’s not like I go around judging everyone or anything. And I want to change!!!

I don’t think I’m better than anyone, quite the opposite actually…I’m not the smartest person, I don’t have the nicest things, I’m not the funniest, I’m not the best at anything really, and I’m ok with that!! It’s just that I sometimes feel… like I might have the best taste in all things in the world!

I’m talking everything! I love the best movies, music, T.V. shows, vintage clothing, comedy… Don’t even try to tell me otherwise, because you’re wrong.

My friends have been telling me for years that my taste is not the end all be all of tastes, and that is fine. I don’t love my friends any less because they aren’t obsessed with the Beatles, or because they don’t like to sing Meatloaf at karaoke, or because their favorite movie is Drive Me Crazy (I love you  Amber,) or because they like Grey’s Anatomy.  It honestly doesn’t bother me that my close friends don’t all share my same interests, as long as there are some people out there with which I can have a common bond of my favorite things. And as long as my friends realize that though they may hold different opinions that me, mine are far superior.

I think I’ve already told y’all that this weekend my sister and I went to go to see “Where the Wild Things Are.” We have seen probably a million movies together in our lifetime, and the same thing always happens. Every time I am finding myself grinning with pleasure or laughing my ass off,  I look over at my sister and my heart fills with dismay when I see that she isn’t having the same reaction. After this particular movie I started to grill her, just as I always do.

CJ: “Sooo.. Didnt you LOVE it!? Oh my gosh, I really liked it!!”

Sis: “Yeahh… I mean… it was alright…”

CJ: “Um… ALRIGHT??? You do realize that was a Spike Jonze movie don’t you??? The same guy who directed Adaptation, the best movie of ALL time!! And even if it wasn’t the BEST movie in the world, you had to have enjoyed it…. You enjoyed it didn’t you ??? You didn’t even laugh once!”

Sis: ” Yeah… I told you… it was ok, just not my favorite! And I didn’t think it was funny…”

CJ: “Well!! You obviously have no taste!! You don’t think ANYTHING is funny! I bet you don’t even like Steve Martin!”

And then she let me have it.

She told me that just because I like something doesn’t mean everyone else does, (duh) and that sometimes it comes across rude when I try to push my passions on other people…

CJ: So I guess it’s also rude when I get really mad  when I’m trying to make someone watch a Kids in the Hall sketch and they would rather read a magazine?”

Sis: Rude.

CJ:And also when I make every one in the car be quiet so that they can hear the lyrics to Wilco or Joshua Radin and make them give me their interpretation…?

Sis: Rude.

CJ: And when I make everyone be quiet in the car so they can listen to my impression of Bob Dylan singing every song that comes on the radio?

Sis: That’s just annoying. Especially after the first 2 songs. And you don’t sound like Bob Dylan.

I thought about this for a while, and when writing my post yesterday, I realized that I have always been pushy about the things I enjoy… especially to my closest friends and family members. I have come to the conclusion that I really want to have a more open mind… and I really think you guys (bloggers) are already helping.

I feel like I’m really getting to know some of you, and you’ve really given me the opportunity to open my eyes to things that I normally wouldn’t have given a time of day. Sometimes I’m so surprised when I feel like I know a lot about who you are, and then you reveal something new that I never would have expected, and I love you more for it! And since I do, I accept that maybe my opinion isn’t  superior (maybe.) I’ve realized that if I just shut up and read about other people’s passions, mine aren’t the only ones that matter.

So basically, what I’m trying to say, is that I am so very thankful for each and everyone of you that I have gotten to know the last few months. Even the people that I haven’t corresponded with, you’ve helped me expand my horizons a ton! I feel like I have learned so much and I can’t wait to gain an even more open mind with each day!! (Can I have some wine with my cheese?) But seriously.

Now I just have to apply my new found open mind to real life…

And while we are on the subject,  Kim over at Perfectly Cursed Life has begun a tradition that I absolutely love, the annual “Thank You for Blogging” award, designed to honor bloggers that you are thankful for.  I recently handed out awards, and her rules are you have to hand it out to at least 4 other bloggers, so I’m going to keep this right at that… though I would hand this out to a zillion people if I could stay awake.


First off, if you haven’t checked out Kim’s blog, do it now. She definitely has a way with words, and has a way with being funny, while also making ya think! What I’m trying to say, is she hits you in all the right places.

I’ve only recently come across Beckeye over at The Pop Eye, but if you have an interest in anything pop culture… she is a must! Before I started a blog, I spent all of my internet time on film and music sites, and I’m so happy to have found a mix of everything I love on one little site!

I’ve said it before, but Meg at Lost in Thought is easily one of my favorite bloggers ever. I feel like whenever I read her posts, I am taken away in a whimsical land… and just when she gets me going all sentimental, I laugh my ass off. Loves this girl!!

I’d also like to pass this on to Dani over at She Laughs too Easily and Cries too Loud. Always hilarious, always poignant…. and I just don’t have enough good words to say about this lady! Check her out!

OK one more, Tricia at One Step To Recovery. You already know that I love you to pieces, but for everyone else, check out this girl’s blog!! I go crazy when she doesn’t update!  She is hilarious and says it like it is… Trust me, you will love her!!

I’m not sure I’ll be around tomorrow, (could surprise ya!) But I figured I’d leave you with this!

Happy Thanksgiving!

This is the only old pic of me with a headdress on where I don't look stupid. Bahahaha!

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  • clevelandpoet

    I think you're pretty funny. Also anyone willing to watch the pumpkin karver can't be too snobby 😉 As for the blogs you are thankful for if they have your backing its enough to get me to read em.

  • Josh


    Yeah I need to change a lot of things about me. But it ain't gonna happen anytime soon, suckaz.

    Great post as always Carissa. I'm hitting a brick wall with mine. I'm about to take a rubber mallet to my head. DON'T MAKE ME DO IT.

  • meg

    awww, thank you! my posts take you away to a whimsical land?? awesome. that is nice to hear!
    bwahaha, i love that you had numerous pictures of you in a headdress to choose from.

  • beckeye

    No, no, no, thank YOU! :)

  • beckeye

    By the way, a few months ago, a friend and I stayed up until 5 am to watch “Drive Me Crazy” in its entirety, despite the fact that I had already seen it and knew how damn ridiculous it was.

  • starzskymoon

    AWWWWWW!!!! I LOVES YOU, TOO!!!!!! *sniff sniff*

  • kimwithak

    Yeay! Thanks for passing the love on. (And for the lovely shout out!)

  • thatkindofgirl

    Carissa. Carissa. You can say all you want about striving to be more accepting of other people's mindsets and not forcing your opinions on others and all that hooey, but, look, I think one can easily read between the lines and see what your real resolution ought to be: Get a better Bob Dylan impression!

    I mean, that's the stuff that'll really bring peace of mind and joy to the masses!

  • Jaime


  • Jessica

    New Years . . . guess I better get on that too. Nice pic! Have a great day!

  • Belle

    What if I KNOW (not THINK) that my taste is the best? I'm not snobby then, right? Just the best?
    In all seriousness, awesome goal! Good luck. :)

  • Dani

    Aww, thank you! i have been called a lot of things in my life (most of them are not repeatable), but this may be a first for poignant.

    As for the resolution, I know that would be well out of my range. If you don't want to experience my tastes, fine, but I'm gonna be laughing on the inside about how wrong you are.

  • CarissaJaded

    Aww thanks!! And are you kidding? Pumpkin Carver sounds pretty bad ass…

  • CarissaJaded

    I honestly don't judge! And Josh, you're awesome… DON”T DO IT! I already told you, I will not hesitate to CUT YOU!

  • CarissaJaded

    They really really do do!!

  • CarissaJaded

    haha well… I might have called out a friend for having it be her favorite movie of all time, but what I failed to mention is that I own it on VHS… and DVD… :/

  • CarissaJaded

    Always! Have a great thanksgiving~

  • CarissaJaded

    Kim that was such a fun idea!~ And anytime friend!

  • CarissaJaded

    I'm already working on it… though I'm pretty sure the one I have right now is pretty much perfect.. I mean…

  • CarissaJaded


  • CarissaJaded

    Thanks! but yeah… my taste is still better. :)

  • CarissaJaded

    haha love it! but yeah… pretty sure no matter how much I may try, I'll still be right and there is just nothing I can do about it!

  • CandiceW

    Hahahaha, I totally do the same sometimes, and can't help but adopt a condescending attitude. Although other times it's totally justifiable (i.e. Twilight). Sweet resolution though, and congrats on the award!

  • LiLu

    Happy Turkey Day to you as well! 😉

  • Kirsten

    first off amazing photo.

    secondly, I have that snobby thing too but mainly about my TV shows. I judge people so much on what they watch haha. If they like a show I hate I cant help but form a disgusted face which is way too noticeable and they get pissed. So I know how you feel. Hopefully we can work on it haha.

    Happy Thanksgiving!

  • MissSmidge

    Nothing wrong with a condescending attitute, you just need to find a cooler sister…

    Hum, not a good way to say hello that.

    I'm a bit of a snob too, particularly when it comes to film and books, no one seems to 'get' my choices, but then i like to educate and if in the end they dont like them, then there is always something else to show them!

  • Sherri

    I totally want that headdress.

  • filmgirl

    HA!! but you're RIGHT. it's SPIKE JONZE for god's sake…okay maybe the dylan thing is a bit much, but hey, who's keeping track?! I might have to join you on the new years resolution thing even thought I'm vehemently against the resolution thing.

  • kathryn

    Well. You read MY blog, so you obviously have exquisite taste. I can't speak for anything else.

    Congrats on your award! And congrats to the other recipients!

    Onward, Blitzen!

  • PJ

    Aren't sisters grand?? Is yours older than you? I get the feeling that she at least feels like she is. Loved the dialog between you. I could identify with it.

  • shineoutloud

    Oops…I didn't really love Where the Wild Things Are either. And I really really wanted to. It was (INCREDIBLY) beautiful, but it was so much darker than the story to me. Or else I haven't bothered to read the story in a while. But I don't know, it just didn't…HIT me like I wanted it to, ya know?

  • shineoutloud

    Oops…I didn't really love Where the Wild Things Are either. And I really really wanted to. It was (INCREDIBLY) beautiful, but it was so much darker than the story to me. Or else I haven't bothered to read the story in a while. But I don't know, it just didn't…HIT me like I wanted it to, ya know?